AITA for telling my ex husband there is no “us” anymore?
A Redditor shares their experience with a surprise visit from their ex-husband, who cheated on them two years ago. He now regrets his actions and pleads for a second chance, but the user, happily engaged to someone else, firmly tells him there’s no “us” anymore.
They wonder if they were too harsh in their response. Read the story below and decide if you think they handled the situation well or went too far.
‘ AITA for telling my ex husband there is no “us” anymore?’
I, 37F, had been married with my ex husband, “Jason” for 5 years, togheter for 6. Our marriage had been pretty rocky and we fought frequently. Eventually, I guess it got a point where he decided to cheat on me. I didn’t even realize what was going on until I had come home one day to find her and him kissing in the kitchen.
That’s when he told me that he was seeing someone and that he was inlove with her. I’ll call the woman Emily for privacy. Emily didn’t say anything, she just kissed him on the cheek again before going into the bedroom to help him pack his stuff up while Jason began telling me about how we’d go through with the divorce.
My heart was broken. And to think that just a few weeks ago, this was the man who was telling me future names for our kids. Fast forward to 2 years later after that, I am currently engaged to a wonderful man. Recently, we have been planning our wedding as well as our honey moon.
We have also discussed the topic of children and agreed that none one of us plan to have children in the near future, and I am so thankful that I didn’t end up having any with my ex. (This is not disrespecting people who do have kids .)
One night when I was watching Netflix on my couch, my doorbell rang. I looked through the peephole to see my ex standing there, crying and begging me to talk to him. I opened the door and asked what was wrong because I wasn’t sure if it was a emergency or not.
He started by saying he was sorry, Emily was crazy, and that he wanted to come home to me and be the one sleeping with me at night instead of Emily. He went on a whole rant about how much he missed me and that he regrets ending things with me.
Him and Emily have a child together, but he says he wishes I was the mother of his kids , maybe that way he could see me and kiss me everyday when he got home. He then asked me if we could rekindle our relationship, and I laughed in his face.
I told him that maybe he could have just ended things on a good term instead of going behind my back and cheating on me. If he loved me so much, he wouldn’t have slept with someone else. It’s his loss 💅. I’ve already moved as well, so even if he didn’t cheat I still would’ve said no.
I then told him to get out of my house or I would contact the authorities. He tried to bargain with me before just straight up telling me that he would simply just leave. Anyway , I’m currently laying back down on my couch again while writing this. I’m just a bit worried if I’m actually the AH here.. AITA?
Here’s the comments of Reddit users:
AZAnalyst77 − NTA. He made the choice to cheat on you with Emily and he likely cheated on her with someone else. The “us” you had is long gone. Good on your for standing your ground but also asking if there was an emergency.
TheSilentObserver76 − What? You mean you didn’t put your life on pause and wait around for that prize specimen of a fool? NTA continue being blissfully happy with your new partner and let the ex deal with the consequences of his stupidity.
WinterFront1431 − Personally, I’d message his lovely wife. ” Hey, just a little advice, keep your cry, baby husband, on a tighter leash. I don’t need him showing up at my door, crying and begging me back.
I do not want to get police involved, but I will if you don’t keep the man you desperately wanted in check. Thanks, and I appreciate it. “But I’m petty, and I’d like to course drama for them both and let her know she won what she created. A cheat.
Bubbly_Can_56 − NTA, the trash took itself out. He can be miserable with his own choices. Oh no! Consequences! Happy for you, keep it up.
TopAd7154 − NTA. Tell Emily what happened. In fact? Make a group chat with him, her, your fiancé, your ex in laws etc and tell them everything. Would be better if you had camera footage with audio.. Petty? Yes. Deserved? Absolutely. Hi. My name is Nikki and I’m a mean girl. I have no plans to change.
Leading-Anybody7240 − Are you a doormat?? Or this is fake?? Why would you care about him?? This most be fake. Nta.
x86_64_ − How is this story being posted over and over in this sub
NSFWGIFMAKER − What is up with these questions lately where 100% of ppl will say NTA. You know what YTA for such a dumb post
XplodingFairyDust − Hmmm is the AP the one you wrote a now deleted post about whether AITA for not letting ex friend back into your life claiming she slept with your ex?
This is either a fake post or you need to move somewhere new and start over as it seems lots of people that betrayed you are trying to rekindle their relationships with you lol
goodgirlgang − Definitely not the a**hole! That “us” is gone, plain and simple. That’s just a fact.
Do you think the Redditor was justified in standing firm against her ex’s plea, or should she have been more understanding of his remorse? How would you respond in a situation where an ex asks for a second chance after betrayal? Share your thoughts below!
