AITA for not forgiving my best friend (31M) after he cheated with my fiancée (29F) and then asked me to be his best man?

One Reddit user shares their heartbreak and betrayal after discovering that their best friend of many years and fiancée had been cheating on them. Despite the painful split, the best friend has now asked them to be his best man in their wedding as a “sign of forgiveness.”

Refusing to take part, the user faces criticism from mutual friends who think they should move on. Read the full story below and see if you think they’re in the wrong for not forgiving.

‘ AITA for not forgiving my best friend (31M) after he cheated with my fiancée (29F) and then asked me to be his best man?’

I (33M) have been with my fiancée (29F) for 7 years. We were planning our wedding, and my best friend (31M), who I’ve known since childhood, was set to be my best man. Everything seemed perfect.

Then I found out they had been cheating on me for almost a year behind my back. When I confronted them, they apologized and claimed it was a ‘mistake’ that ‘just happened,’ but they still wanted to move forward with their lives together. Now, to top it all off, he’s asked ME to be his best man for their wedding!

He says it’s a chance for me to show I’ve forgiven them and that we’re still family. I’ve cut them both out of my life, and I’m getting flak from mutual friends who think I’m being petty and need to move on. So, Reddit, AITA for refusing to forgive them or be involved in any part of their lives?

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

BoredofBin −  NTA! No way would this be right on any planet in the galaxy. Good for you for standing your ground and cutting them out of your life. Since you are on a cutting spree, maybe you should cut those mutual friends out of your life too. You don’t need that kind of negativity around you.

iknowsomethings2 −  NTA. Cut out everyone who supports them, they aren’t your friends. Ask them if he fucked their fiancé would they still feel that way. Wow that guy has some f**king nerve to ask you to be his best man and think you’ll EVER forgive him.

Absolutely not. I hope they cheat on each other. Best of luck with finding a better person in the future, that will be your best revenge, happiness

OkayChampGuy −  I will call it fake. Why ? Because how can your mutual « friends » would dare saying you are the AH ?. Obviously not the a**hole at all.

Forward_Ad_7988 −  weren’t you Emma (28f) like 6 days ago? 😂😂

Unfair_Explanation53 −  Why did you make this story up? You literally have another post on relationship advice with a different age for yourself and asking for relationship advice.. Also your gender has changed

Turbulent_Ebb5669 −  Sounds like an unlikely story, and you not knowing if YTA is just icing on the MacArthurs Park cake

Otown_rider −  Why do people make these fake af stories. Last week OP was a 28F looking for advice about her boyfriend, this week they are a 31M. This story is so stupidly unbelievable anyways I can’t believe it even has any comments taking it seriously.

TopAd7154 −  Has to be fake. No way would you be getting called “petty” for your best mate and your fiancé of 7 YEARS cheating. I call BS. If I’m wrong then you really need to get better friends with stronger moral compasses. 

BadgerOk5391 −  Definitely NTA. Your fiance and best friend betrayed your trust, and it’s totally fair to cut them out of your life. Asking you to be his best man is just messed up, and you have every right to decline and not get involved with them anymore.

MadMaz27 −  OMG. I just can’t. I will say something that will get me banned for life from Reddit.. I just can’t.

Do you think the Redditor is justified in cutting ties and refusing to attend the wedding, or should they try to forgive and move forward? How would you handle a betrayal like this from both a best friend and a partner? Share your thoughts in the comments below!