Aita for explaining to my husband he’s the reason we keep having daughters?
This woman recently found out she’s expecting her third daughter, which led to a conversation with her husband about the baby’s gender. When he insisted she was responsible for their daughters, based on his understanding of genetics, she gently explained that it’s actually the father’s genes that determine a child’s gender.
At his request, they later asked his mom, who confirmed the biology and further clarified that gender patterns can sometimes continue across multiple children. Embarrassed by the revelation, her husband feels she handled the situation poorly, leaving her wondering if she crossed a line.
‘ Aita for explaining to my husband he’s the reason we keep having daughters?’
I 30 F have 2 daughters and am currently pregnant with my 3rd girl. We just found out this morning. On the drive to my husband’s mothers house he explained how he was a bit disappointed about having a girl. But then he said “I should’ve expected this because you have 3 sisters”
I explained that me having 3 sisters have nothing to do with the gender of our child. He said it’s genetics and that I’m the reason for our daughters. I told him that’s not how biology works, he said it is.
He then went on the explain that his mom only has brothers and his two oldest brothers both have two sons because his mom’s side. I told that doesn’t make any since because it should be the same for him then. He said no because both of their wives have more brothers than sisters.
He was getting frustrated but I was just laughing at him. I explained that him and his oldest two brothers have different dads, but out of his dad’s 8 kids, 3 are boys and 5 are girls. The men determines the gender.
He said that not true because the kids his dad had with his mom are all boys. He dropped it and said he’ll ask his mom who has a degree in biology. So we get to his parents house for brunch and he asks his mom if I’m the reason we kept having girls.
She told him bluntly that the men determines the gender and it’s actually not a 50/50 chance. She then went on to explain that the more of one gender you have, the higher the chances that your next child is also going to be that gender.
So he asked is it likely that he’ll have a boy. She told him that if he keeps trying it might happen. He just walked to the car and said he’s going for a drive. I received a text from him saying that I didn’t have to embarrass him like that. I was so confused. Aita?
Check out how the community responded:
[Reddit User] − Genetics are always a game of chance. For example, a biologist can give birth to an i**ot.
TopAd7154 − NTA. Your husband embarrassed himself. What an i**ot.
SpringfieldMO_Daddy − NTA – you might give that man access to the internet so he can do some research.
calacmack − Your husband is the AH for blaming you for the gender of your kids regardless of biological facts. NTA.
Lost_Needleworker285 − Nta. He asked his mom not you and genetically he is the reason you keep having girls. Please don’t keep having kids just because he wants a boy only have more kids if you actually want to have another daughter because chances are that’s what you’ll get.
My mum wanted a boy she had 5 girls before she finally got the kid she actually wanted and although she never said she didn’t want us, she did make it very clear he was her favourite whatever her prince wanted he got nothing was too good for him. I was lucky if I actually got dinner I’m not saying he wouldn’t love your girls if you had a boy but don’t have more kids just because he wants a boy.
bathroomstallghost − NTA babyman got schooled by mommy. how could you do this /s.
forcryingoutmeow − NTA. But unfortunately you reproduced with a m**on.
FunnyCharacter4437 − To confirm, he’s upset that “you embarrassed him” where the point of him asking his mom was to hopefully embarrass you and that backfired, so of course it’s your fault. The mental gymnastics of some men. Tell him to stop trying to make you look stupid in front of his mom and then he’ll stop embarrassing himself. NTA.
Ok-Future-5257 − He embarrassed himself through his ignorance of basic biology. It’s the male sperm that delivers either a Y chromosome (male) or another X chromosome (female).
Serious_Watercress38 − NTA. He went looking for a fight and blaming you for something completely out of your control and now he’s upset he got put in his place. Maybe he should go back to school instead of being mad his kids are not his preferred gender smh.