AITAH for telling my gf that my ex wife was “tighter”?

This man (39) was out with his girlfriend (32) and her friends when the conversation took a turn to discuss his ex-wife. Despite his attempts to stop it, his girlfriend and her friends began loudly criticizing his ex, especially around sensitive topics related to childbirth and appearance.

Frustrated, he made a pointed comment in defense of his ex-wife, which left everyone in stunned silence, and his girlfriend deeply upset. Here’s his side of the story.

‘ AITAH for telling my gf that my ex wife was “tighter”?’

I (m39) hate it when people mKe fun of others. I mean I know that people can gossip and talk amongst friends about other people and I am guilty of that too but I got very upset when my gf (f32) started talking about my ex wife (f42).

I understand that disliking an ex isn’t abnormal or anything but my gf is obsessed with my ex wife and always try to make bad remarks about her. When it is just to me, I don’t care because again people gossip and talk s**t about others in the privacy of their own homes.

But this time it was at a restaurant with some of her girlfriends and spouses. Somehow the discussion became about my ex wife’s vagina. Yes don’t ask me how but they were discussing childbirth and body changes, age etc and my ex got dragged. my gf was a bit drunk and she was talking loudly.

I hated it and asked her to stop talking (When I get upset she doubles down because she starts thinking why do you care? Why don’t you want me to talk s**t about your ex. She has told me this before). Now she was talking about how my ex wife must have a huge one. We have two children together (f4, m2).

The girls started laughing and saying ewwwwwww. I yelled to stop but they ignored me. Then my gf told me why are you so agitated did we hit a nerve? I said actually no, my ex wife was the “tightest” woman I have had. I don’t know how she managed it but she’s very tight.

They became silent and my gf started crying then the women started yelling ah at me and their spouses were between amused and scared then one of the spouses said yeah I don’t think child birth really affects this I haven’t noticed difference with women I have dated. I felt gratitude but I was still being yelled at and my gf has not called or answered me since Saturday.. I’m so tired.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Unlikely_Fruit232 −  This whole situation sucks. If you’re co-parenting with your ex, your girlfriend should know that part of dating you means having a cordial or at least neutral relationship with her, at least in front of you. She’s waaaay crossed the line. This is not somebody you can have around your kids. She’s ghosting you? Cool, saves you the trouble.

Any_Roll_184 −  That your GF “doubles down” when you get upset is a massive red flag.

DigaLaVerdad −  “. . .my gf has not called or answered me since Saturday.” Good riddance!

bhyellow −  Loose lips sink ships..

Orsombre −  This is such a lack of respect for your ex-wife but also for your feelings that I hope that you have already broken with your gf. Being drunk is not an excuse to discuss other people’s private parts in public. What else is she ok to discuss aloud when you are not around? She won’t change because she is jealous and insecure of your ex.

CynicallyCyn −  NTA what happens when she say something like this in front of, or to, your children? She is not the person to have around.

Kafanska −  You mean your ex GF, right?

Opposite-Fortune- −  Your middle aged ass is too old for this b**lshit.

No-Flan6382 −  She’s a walking red flag dude. I’m 29 and she sounds too immature for me.

PassionDelicious5209 −  The fact that your gf and her friends were talking about your ex wife’s vagina is disturbing on so many levels and is a red flag. The fact your gf is obsessed and threatened by your ex wife is a red flag. Like I get not liking her but she should have respect for the mother of your children.
Are you still dating this woman? I sure hope not she acts like a teenager.