AITAH for announcing our pregnancy at my brother’s wedding after he proposed at mine?

This person shared how their brother hijacked their wedding day to propose, even after they explicitly asked him not to. To return the favor, they took a moment at the brother’s wedding to announce their pregnancy. But now their mother is furious, saying it was wrong to steal attention. Here’s the story.

‘ AITAH for announcing our pregnancy at my brother’s wedding after he proposed at mine?’

My brother said he was going to propose at my wedding. I told him no. That it was a day about myself and my wife and we did not want any distractions.
My mom lost her s**t. She said that he wanted family he night not see again for a while to be a part of the proposal.

I said I did not give a s**t and that if he did it I would have him kicked out. He did it. And my mom said if I tried kicking him out she would leave too.. I just remember seething inside. My brother got married last weekend. Instead of a welcome to the family toast I used the time to announce that we were expecting our first baby.

My mom was upset but my grandmother told her to sit down and shut up. We spent most of the reception talking to family we would not see again for a while about our coming baby.

My mom says I was an a**hole for taking attention away from my brother on his wedding day. She got really mad when I reminded her that she threatened to leave my wedding if I kicked him out after he proposed. I have the screen cap of the text messages.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

[Reddit User] −  The tid bit about grandma is funny. I’d like to know more!

cthulularoo −  It’s blatantly obvious which one of you is the golden child. Good job to grandma for shutting Mom’s b**lshit down. But your bro! He asked, you said no, he did it anyway. That’s an easy way to wind up on people’s s**t list. What did his wife say when she found out he didn’t get your permission to ask? Is she an a**hole too?. NTA for giving back what you got.

emilyethel −  In my very humble opinion, this is better suited for r/pettyrevenge. Good on you, def NTA.

Fit_Marionberry_3878 −  This is why we need a YTJA category.
You’re the justified a**hole. He got what he deserved.

KnotYourFox −  My mom was upset but my grandmother told her to sit down and shut up. Grandma’s is a f**king legend. Way to go OP, a funny a**hole bringing the karma back around hard and strong!! She got really mad when I reminded her that she threatened to leave my wedding if I kicked him out after he proposed.

I’d be reminding her that Grandma had been pretty clear where she needed to be on this issue. I want to know if golden boi DARED to say anything about this to you all. ETA: may be assholish in regular terms but this was Karma coming back so DEFINITELY NTA.

Lindris −  Always sucks when people dote all love and attention to one of their children while casting off the other. NTA, I live for that sort of petty. Your granny is awesome btw.

_–Marko–_ −  Good on you.. What goes around comes around.

angryomlette −  Why did you loose the chance to get rid of your mother and brother during your wedding? At least your grandmother supports you. NTA.

LittleMiss1985 −  NTA Just curious, how did your brother react?

12345esther −  YTA obviously. The correct way to do this would have been: ask his permission, get rejected, then do it anyway.. /s. NTA obviously.