AITA for refusing to let my FIL watch football anymore ?

The user, a 22-year-old woman, is struggling with her husband and father-in-law watching late-night football in her bedroom while she tries to sleep for her early morning job. Despite her exhaustion and attempts to communicate her need for sleep, her husband is reluctant to ask his father to stop.

The user is worried about offending her father-in-law, who is elderly and lonely. read the original story below…

‘ AITA for refusing to let my FIL watch football anymore ?’

I (22F) have to get up at 7am in the morning to leave for work and I do work jobs so I’m very tired at the end of the day. Recently there was a International cricket tournament going on and now a Football Cup which my Husband and FIL along with my FIL’s caretaker watches.

I barely know about sports and am too busy to watch. The cricket cup would end by midnigh but the football one in local time ends at around 4 am in the morning which means all three men watch it on TV in my bedroom where I sleep which has the only one TV where live football can be streamed and is fixed to the wall and the other TVs are too old and doesn’t support streaming and only have local/regional channels

It was fine for a few days . We have in past together seen movies. But that was like once in 6 months. But this football tournament is going to go for about a month and everyday it’s becoming i**olerable for me to have the lights and tv on cheering while I’m trying to sleep.

My husband has very flexible working hours and works from home so he can get up anytime he wants. And my FIL is like 80, retired and a very lonely man (MIL died a couple of years ago). I don’t like saying no to him because he is older than my grandfather and i respect him a lot.

But him sitting in my bedroom from 9 pm till 2 or 4 o’clock in the morning is something I don’t like anymore. I’ve tried to tell my husband several times how them being there affects my sleep as I have to work 13 hours the next day.

He just shrugs and says that his father will take offense if he asks him to not come as seeing football together has been a tradition for them. This led to me being very pissed off and I am not talking to my husband anymore. He is now all sad and stuff.

But my friends and family had shown concern over this and asked me to ask my FIL directly. I’m just afraid he might be hurt because he is a proud man and will take these things to heart

and he might end up not coming to my room at all which is bad as he barely goes anywhere else, most times we have to put in so much effort just to get him out of his own room as he has lots of health problems and can’t walk very far. So now I’m in a dilemma.

INFO/ADD- No I don’t have another room I can shift to. It’s like 40°C here, so A.C is an important factor hence moving the TV somewhere else is not gonna work. And there is not much space to just move the TV and buy another one.

If i had enough money to just buy another TV then I wouldn’t be working 2 jobs. Also where I’m from TVs are not that cheap. Other TVs are so so so old that no, none of the solutions you people gave with wires and plugs and stuff is gonna work on it.

See what others had to share with OP:

Cironato −  Um, here’s a really outlandish suggestion: Put the TV in another room. Everyone wins.

RichBenf −  Bloody hell, ESH. You can pick up a Roku streaming stick for like £30. It’ll plug into any TV made in the last 22 years.. How is this even a situation.

eefr −  INFO: Why can’t you move the TV out of your bedroom and into a different room?

StonewallBrigade21 −  “the other TVs are too old and doesn’t support streaming and only have local/regional channels” INFO: Why can’t they get a new TV (even a small inexpensive one) that will support streaming?. NTA

” I’ve tried to tell my husband several times how them being there affects my sleep as I have to work 13 hours the next day. He just shrugs … “. Your husband is an a**hole though. ” I’m just afraid he might be hurt because he is a proud man and will take these things to hear”

If he really is a proud man he will understand that he needs to stop watching sports in his DiL’s bedroom at all hours of the night while she tries to sleep. Especially when she works early in the morning. For your own sake and sanity, insist on putting a stop to this. It’s really very ridiculous.

stroppo −  NTA. Your husband is though, to not take your needs into consideration. Watching TV in your bedroom while you’re trying to sleep — seriously? Sounds like he has no respect for you at all.

They should be watching in another room, or another home. If one isn’t available, too bad, they don’t get to watch. They can watch replays when you’re not trying to sleep.

Strict_Chair7772 −  As a man, what is up with these men lacking common sense, a very good and modern cost like $200-$300, buy one and install it in another room, so your WIFE CAN GET SOME SLEEP.

Herald86 −  Everybody is AH for not simply solving the problem

Fit-Profession-1628 −  Why not just move the tv to the living room during the Euro cup? Or get a Chrome cast (or anything of the sort) to use in the other tvs, it’s like 40€

Angus_McFifeXIII −  Unless the TV is stuck to the wall with something like cement, then there is always a possibility to detach it. Honestly it’s really weird that you’re all comfortable with this situation (you are if it’s just for a few nights).

There are so many solutions to this problem, that I’m going to say YTA for not demanding them to buy a chromecast, unscrew the TV or just bluntly tell them to stay out of the bedroom while you sleep. It’s weird as hell.

th1s_fuck1ng_guy −  How old are these TVS? It doesnt have to be a smart TV. HDMI port? Get an HDMI cord and have them watch from a laptop. Red/white/yellow cord? Can get a conversion cord for HDMI and plug into laptop. Laptop doesnt have a HDMI slot? Get a dock with HDMI capability. Lots of solutions here.

Is the user justified in wanting to prioritize her sleep, or should she accommodate her family’s tradition? What do you think? Share your thoughts below!