AITA for disposing my pads in my boyfriend’s bathroom?

A young woman visiting her boyfriend’s apartment disposed of her used pads by wrapping them and placing them in the bathroom trash can. Her boyfriend became upset upon discovering them and demanded she take out the trash, suggesting she should have stored them in her purse instead.

Although she found his reaction immature, her brother agreed with him, leaving her feeling uncertain. Read the original story below…

‘ AITA for disposing my pads in my boyfriend’s bathroom?’

My boyfriend (23M) and I (18F) have been together for about 3 months now and this is the first time I’ve spent the night over at his flat while I was on my period. Since yesterday, I’ve been changing my pads in his bathroom and each time, I wrapped the used pad in a plastic wrapper and put it in the trashcan.

The trashcan has a lid and there’s a plastic garbage bag in there, so the pad was touching nothing but the trash that was already inside. I genuinely didn’t think it was a big deal, until my boyfriend took out the trash this morning and noticed the plastic wrappers in the bag.

He knew they were the packaging for my pads because he had seen them before and quite outraged, he asked whether my used pads were also in that bag.
I told him yes and he dropped the bag, calling me disgusting and telling me to take out the trash myself.

I did, but then asked him where else I should’ve put my pads and he told me I could’ve just kept them in my purse until I got home. I’m staying at his place for three nights because we both have some time off, and I wasn’t going to keep my used pads in my bag for days on end (imagine the smell…).

He stated that he didn’t want my blood all over his trash and that I should find another way to dispose my pads asap. I don’t think my attempt of an explanation why period blood isn’t as disgusting as the thinks it is got through to him and he’s quite set on his opinion.

I think he was a bit childish because I don’t understand how an adult straight man can be so disgusted by period blood, but when I texted my brother (19M) about it, he sided with my boyfriend. As I’ve been outnumbered, I wanted to see whether other people also believe what I did was an AH move.. EDIT: typos

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

vac_roc −  NTA. If he cant make your vagina welcome in his apartment I think your vagina should go elsewhere.

Glittering-State-901 −  NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA. Garbage is garbage. Garbage is not for purses. You are a person. Periods are normal. Your boyfriend and brother are being weird.

ThrowAway568931 −  I’ll be honest, I did post this hoping someone would back me up on this, but I didn’t expect to have hundreds of people telling me to break up with my boyfriend. It’s a bit overwhelming, so I hope it’s ok I’m not replying as much as I’d like to.

However, I think you’ll be pleased to hear that I’ve cut my visit short and gone home for the time being. No break-up I could talk about yet, but I’ve taken the comments to heart and if I don’t get some kind of explanation/ apology in the near future, I’ll have to reconsider whether maintaining this relationship is actually worth it.

Lots of love to anyone who offered some advice <3

Begonia_Blue −  NTA he is too immature to date, he’s not ready for a relationship with a woman. What would happen if you unexpected started your period during s**? Is he going to yell and gag or reassure you that a shower can fix it? He’s not the one, not for you and not for anyone until he learns to be more accepting of bodies.

Swampman5000 −  imagine being 23 and throwing a tantrum cause your girlfriend put trash in a trash can, simply embarrassing for him NTA

[Reddit User] −  NTA; trash the boyfriend

KaliTheBlaze −  NTA. He doesn’t want your blood all over his trash? How ridiculous. Was he planning to frame it and hang it on the wall or something? And the suggestion that you keep them in your purse for days on end is disgusting, in addition to being bizarre and deeply s**fish.

You disposed of your pads in a reasonable, tidy manner that didn’t create any new or inconvenient mess for him to clean up – he was going to take that trash out anyway. Sounds like you might have something else you need to throw out.

Inevitable-Kale-4292 −  NTA – and this is a huge red flag. Please run! You packaged them up and put them in a bag in a closed bin, your bf didn’t have to touch them or even see any blood that might harm his little sensitive eyes. He needs to grow up!. Has he ever dated a girl before?

What were his plans for his trash that he didn’t want your blood on it? Was he going to root through it later like a raccoon? Has he killed someone and doesn’t want your blood on the m**der weapon too?

SamSpayedPI −  NTA. Only an a**hole would expect you to carry garbage around in your purse for *days* rather than sully his pristine trash can with it. 🙄

candb82314 −  NTA. Dude is he a 13 year old boy? You even wrapped them before throwing them away. He needs to grow up. Your brother is an AH too for siding with him. It’s fluffling trash for Pete sakes.

Was her boyfriend being unreasonable, or should she have handled it differently? What do you think? Share your thoughts below!