AITA for telling my great aunt to F off after invading my and my infant daughters privacy AGAIN?

A 26-year-old mother was furious after her great-aunt, Peaches, repeatedly invaded her privacy, entering her home without permission and even covering a camera in her bedroom while searching through personal items. Despite multiple warnings over the past year, Peaches continued to disregard boundaries, prompting the mother to tell her off.

Peaches tried to shift blame, worried about her housing situation, but the young mom stood firm, frustrated with the lack of respect. read the original story below…

‘ AITA for telling my great aunt to F off after invading my and my infant daughters privacy AGAIN?’

For context, I’m 26 and my daughter is 4.5 months. I live in my childhood home & my great aunt rents the house next door. We call her Peaches. she’s notoriously nosy, always in someone’s business, & LOUD. She’s had a key to our house bc while it was vacant, my dad asked her to check on the house.

We’ve had issues ever since I moved back last year of her walking right in the front door wo knocking. After repeatedly asking/telling her to not come in wo a heads up/permission, I thought it was getting better. After I got really pissed off about that she apologized and told me she’d never do it again & she “wanted me to trust her”.

Fast forward 2 months & I go out of town with my mom. I have a camera set up pointed at my bed so I can watch my baby and I sleep when I choose to cosleep. Since I only use it for that / monitoring naps, I never have the notifications on. When I got home after the trip, I noticed the camera had shifted.

I grabbed my phone to look over the footage. I’m scrolling scrolling and then I see Peaches in my room. She beelines STRAIGHT for my bed, grabs a towel I had hanging & COVERS my camera. Then I hear shuffling and multiple cabinets opening and closing. My room is like a mini apartment with a kitchen and everything.

I hear her moving things around and who knows what. About 10 minutes later, she flings the towel off the camera and walks out of the room & leaves. Oh my gosh. I was LIVID. As an only child, someone being in my space absolutely INFURIATES me.

We live out in the middle of nowhere, I should NOT have to get home in the dark w my baby and then feel completely vulnerable to know that someone was not only in my house but the room I live in without my knowledge or consent. So I call her. And at first she COMPLETELY DENIES it! I said dude, I CAN SEE YOU. On the camera.?!

Then she told me she was looking for the beer I told her she could have from the MAIN kitchen fridge. Then she’s like, but I didn’t even end up taking the beer. I told her yeah I know they’re still the fridge. Why wouldn’t you just ask me and I’d say sure go get them?? and she’s like well I knew you were out of town ?!?

I lay into her and say wtf whywould you think that’s okay & if that’s true WHAT were you doing going through my stuff?? She couldn’t offer a reason and said that she wasn’t thinking. She’s the kind of person that needs help with often, like asks for a favor a day. I have always been happy to help her.

Then I find out she’s talking s**t about me and then THIS. She’s like please don’t kick me out of my house! I’m not going to kick someone out of their house but it sure is foking unnerving to be living right next to someone with no respect for your boundaries.

So I basically told her to f**k off about me and my daughter. She hasn’t apologized again but has tried to have other conversations but I won’t let them get far. We’ve had conversations regarding my privacy for over a YEAR. AITA for this even though she adores my daughter??

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

LoveBeach8 −  NTA. Get a lock on your door. Ask for the locks to be changed on the house as well. She obvi can’t be trusted. She had no business covering your camera and looking through your room. That’s such a violation of privacy.

She has abused her privileges and I wouldn’t even talk to her anymore if I were you. As far as her seeing and visiting your baby, I wouldn’t let her for awhile. Who knows what she’s capable of, especially if she’s been drinking or wants revenge.

Sami_George −  NTA. Time to get new locks!!!

GirlDad2023_ −  Do you own your house? If so, change the door locks. If you don’t, move. NTA.

JTBlakeinNYC −  NTA, but it’s time to change the locks.

Apples_fan −  NTA. She can continue to adore your daughter- from whatever distance suits you. Meanwhile, please change your locks. If she is going through your things, she is either 1- looking for items to steal. 2- looking for items to bug you about (heirlooms, weed, whatever) or 3 possibly planting such items to discredit you. This is really disturbing behavior. It’s called stalking.

moominsmama −  NTA, but it’s useless. She’ll do it again. Get the key back and put the lack on the door to your room. Also, a funny story comes to mind from a forum long ago in a country far away. A young woman was having similar issues with her MIL.

They couldn’t effectively restrict the access because of reasons, and MIL kept denying that she ever went through DIL’s drawers…. so DIL started placing little notes in her drawers. You know, kind of like “I love you” notes, but different.

They would read something like “Get your long nose out of my underwear”, “what are you looking for?”, or even simply “F…. Off!” They were not addressed, so MIL couldn’t really use them to complain, and there were placed inside a way that you would only ever see them if you started digging through the drawers.

MIL either had to admit that she was doing it, or pretend she did not see the notes – and it was just killing her!

Malibu_Cola −  NTA. Your private sanctuary was violated. Family or not, she was not e**itled to be in the house. Especially if to cover the camera and snoop through your things. Get those locks changed immediately.

Aware_Welcome_8866 −  NTA. Get the locks changed. She adores your daughter, so I don’t suggest cutting ties, but control all future interactions. Controlling her access to you, your daughter, and your home gives her a lot less info to use to bad mouth you.

Of course, she’s going to bad mouth you for changing the locks. Feel free to tell people what she did or just ride it out. If you continue to have visits with her, her complaint is going to quickly lose traction. It’s not about the person, it’s about the behavior.

gravitationalarray −  NTA. For gosh sakes, change the locks!

SL8Rgirl −  Change your locks. Do not give her a copy. Do not ask her to look over your place if you’re out of town.

How would you handle a family member repeatedly violating your privacy? Do you think the mom was justified? Share your thoughts below!