AITAH for not wanting my incestuous cousins at my wedding?
‘A bride-to-be is facing intense family drama over her decision not to invite her cousin Rod (31M) and his pregnant cousin Irelynn (17F) to her upcoming wedding. The two cousins are in a controversial relationship, both due to their large age gap and the fact that they are blood relatives.
The bride feels uncomfortable with their relationship and initially excluded them, but after pressure from family, she reluctantly sent them invitations. Now, Irelynn insists on wearing a white dress to the wedding, which has become a sticking point with the bride’s fiancée—who was surprisingly okay with the relationship but feels wearing white crosses a line.
AITAH for not wanting my incestuous cousins at my wedding?’
I’m getting married this August and there’s some controversy with my family over who’s invited and who isn’t. Im not comfortable with my cousin Rod (31M) and pregnant cousin Irelynn (17F) being at my wedding as they’re in (what I think) is an inappropriate relationship.
Not only is she way too young and pregnant with his baby, they are also related (their parents are siblings). I thought this would be an obvious issue but my family sees no problem with it. When my aunt Rhonda (rods mother) heard that he wouldn’t be invited, she freaked out.
She couldn’t believe that I wasn’t inviting my own cousins to my wedding. When I explained why I was uncomfortable with it, Rhonda said that I was the only one in the family who thought so and that I shouldn’t “make such a big deal”. After being confronted by the rest of my family on the matter, I have in and sent Irelynn and Rod an invite.
I was already unhappy with it, and to make matters worse, Irelynn is insisting on wearing a white dress. I explained why her choice of outfit would be disrespectful, she argued that she should get to wear a white dress as she and rod haven’t gotten a wedding, despite her being pregnant. Now this is the only issue my fiancée has.
She was fine with the age gap and i**est thing because “love is love”, but irelynn wearing white is apparently “too far”. I honestly don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m going crazy because this situation is so obviously wrong in my eyes but my nobody around me thinks so.
I don’t want to disappoint them, but I really don’t want irelynn and rod and my wedding to mess things up. Does anyone see where I’m coming from or AITAH and just don’t realize?
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
Bunny_OHara − NTA Your whole family is nuts, including your finance who is OK with i**est and grooming a minor, but draws the line at a white dress. If I was you, I’d get in my car and just keep driving without looking back at any of them.
Single_Vacation427 − So he groomed her and got pregnant a minor? He is 15 years older than her. It’s disgusting; she could be his child. On top of that they are related which gave him opportunities for grooming her and taking advantage.
It sounds like your fiancé would be fine if your future daughter gets groomed and knocked up by a family member. Is that who you want to marry? NTA but your family is a mess and your future family is going to continue the trend
MarlinsOnlyFans − NTA. What in the f**king Alabama hell is going on here…. Holy trailer park batman.
Junebabe08 − Tell irelynn she can’t wear white because you don’t want your guests to be confused about which cousin you are marrying. She should understand that a bit easier.
[Reddit User] − I wouldn’t marry someone who thought being a pedo was okay.
AnimaLumen − LOVE IS LOVE?!? Your fiancée is just as f**king sus as the rest of them!!!! That girl was groomed and impregnated by a man old enough to have fathered her who also happens to be her FIRST COUSIN but LOVE IS F**KING LOVE?!???!??? Everyone in this story sucks. What in the dirty south redneck f**k did I just read!
gay_Wonder_7597 − Or you can elope with your partner and send pictures to people and have no trouble at all no one there that you don’t want there and its cheap as f**k then spend a lot of money on your first anniversary ETA i didn’t see the part where your partner is fine with the 17 year old being groomed but wearing a white dress is
crossing the line you should reconsider marrying her cause what would happen if you have children would she be ok with them being groomed by a person 3+ years older then your child while your child is under 25 years old (age matters especially when the relationship starts) so do you really want to marry her or are you just ignoring the red flags
MNConcerto − NTA, your family is off the wall, a 31 year old impregnates his 17 year first cousin and she wants to wear white to your wedding because they haven’t been able to have a wedding? This is all kinds of hell no, red flags that can be seen from space.
Not only would they not be invited anyone who is ok with this behavior would also not be invited. This type of drama follows you and creates even more drama. For the love of God elope your family will make your wedding a s**t show of drama.
Fyraen − Gross, NTA. In fact, you’re the only person in this scenario who isn’t an a**hole. You’re the only person who knows pedophilia is wrong, and that’s not even touching on the issue of morality surrounding their decision to doom a baby to the health problems that come with i**est.
Your family is fn nuts and frankly, it sounds like your fiancé is too since the only problem *she* sees here is a white dress.
Few-School-3869 − You’re in Arkansas aren’t you. NTA. Your wedding your rules, but I think it should be about the grooming/age/i**est not the color of the dress
Should the bride stick to her boundaries about not inviting the couple, or is she overreacting? Is it reasonable to worry that their relationship might overshadow the wedding, or should she just focus on her big day? What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments!
