‘ AITAH for showing up to my boyfriend’s house to a “family dinner” in lingerie?’

OP (29F) planned a cozy night with her boyfriend (35M), including a surprise lingerie reveal. She arrived at his place wearing only lingerie under her coat, unaware his mom (visiting unexpectedly) was there. Pressured to remove her coat, OP asked for sweats instead. When she and her boyfriend laughed it off privately, his mom barged in, saw OP in lingerie, and exploded, calling her names. The boyfriend defended OP and kicked his mom out. Now OP feels guilty for causing tension.

‘ AITAH for showing up to my boyfriend’s house to a “family dinner” in lingerie?’

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

• Boundaries: Who was more out of line—OP for the surprise, or the mom for barging in?
• Privacy vs. Family Dynamics: Should the boyfriend have communicated better or set firmer boundaries with his mother?
• Unexpected Situations: How do you handle surprise family encounters with grace, especially during intimate plans?
• Respect in Relationships: Was the mom’s reaction justified, or did she cross a line with name-calling?