My [29m] girlfriend [24f] tried to throw me under the bus when the police searched my house

A Reddit user shares a shocking experience—police unexpectedly searched his home, and instead of standing by him, his girlfriend pointed them toward his backyard shed, insinuating possible criminal activity. Although nothing illegal was found, her actions left him feeling betrayed. Now, he’s struggling to understand whether her reaction was just panic or a major red flag for their relationship. Read the original story below…

‘ My [29m] girlfriend [24f] tried to throw me under the bus when the police searched my house’

My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for a bit over a year. She stays at my house about 75% of the time. We have had no major problems before this point. On Saturday night, we were watching TV in the living room, and suddenly there was loud pounding and shouting at the front door. My immediate reaction was to call the police, but after a look out the curtains, I found that it was the police.

At this point I was extremely confused. I don’t sell, manufacture, or use drugs. I have no firearms in the house. I do nothing illegal online; I don’t even pirate Game of Thrones. I had no idea why they might have reason to be knocking on my door on a Saturday night. I opened the door and they immediately asked for permission to search the premises.

I asked why they would think that was necessary, and they wouldn’t answer. In turn, I refused to give them permission. My girlfriend repeatedly said I should cooperate. I said no, and told them to show me a warrant if they want to enter the house. They then informed me that they had probable cause and were searching my place no matter what I thought about the situation, and that their asking was only a formality.

The first thing they did after entering my house was pull my girlfriend and I into separate rooms and begin questioning us. I kept demanding they show me a warrant, but apparently warrants aren’t even a thing anymore because probable cause can be literally anything when your local PD is backwater and s**tty enough.

I refused to answer any questions. I told them I wanted a lawyer if I was under arrest. I repeated that I did not consent to any searches of my property and repeatedly asked what their probable cause was–that there was nothing readily apparent (thank you Breaking Bad), and that they had no right to strip me of my privacy.

My girlfriend, on the other hand, talked a lot. I didn’t hear much because she was in the next room but I overheard her say this: You should check the back yard shed! I’ve never been in there before and I can’t say what’s in it…

At the time I could only think “what the f**k is she doing?” Well, the police checked the shed, and found nothing (again, I’m not a criminal), and an hour + hundreds of questions later left. At that point I asked why in the world she would try to help them find criminal activity in my house, and she could only answer that she panicked and didn’t know what to do.

I don’t need legal advice. My mother is a paralegal and knows a lot of good attorneys. She’s furious about the police conduct, and she doesn’t even know what my girlfriend said to them yet. I’m incredibly angry at my girlfriend for saying something so unbelievably moronic, but all she can respond to me with is “I panicked and didn’t know what to do.”

What I need more than anything is another perspective on why a person would throw their S/O under the bus like that. Does this seem like something that can be worked through, or is this just a huge red flag?

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

TrueFeralChaos −  I’m fairly certain probable cause doesn’t cover the search of a home. A warrant is surely neccesary, your PD sound like a bunch of animals

[Reddit User] −  So did you find out why the cops searched your house?

[Reddit User] −  HUGE red flag. D**p-worthy. In a sense it doesn’t matter if her intentions are malicious. She has revealed herself to be someone you cannot trust, who would participate in your destruction if she’s emotionally distraught.

[Reddit User] −  Damn, this sounds super weird. It does however kinda depend on what they told her. If they’d said something like “we believe he has x in the house and if we find it without you telling us, you’ll be in trouble too”. Now, I’d be disappointed if anyone I knew, loved and respected ratted me out to the cops, especially if I hadn’t actually done ANYTHING wrong but it really does dpeend what they said.

As per your description, they don’t sound like the best police force in the world, they could’ve said literally anything to her. Some people also turn to jelly when they see blue lights and a shiny badge. I have a friend who had a 20 bag hidden in his boxers and was stopped by the cops, asking for directions.

Instead of just giving them the direction and moving on, he owned straight up to having the 20 bag. Don’t automatically assume she knew she was ratting you out or even thought about what she was doing.

Dragonsblud −  Shes cowardly. Possibly easily panicked. Not someone I would want beside me when a balloon popped let alone something important.

Legallyblondieright −  My moneys on the girlfriend calling the police and trying to get OP in trouble. Police don’t go eeny-meeny miney moe let’s search this house from head to toe. If there’s no evidence, I.e. illegal firearms, drugs etc in plain view, the only other probable cause the police would have, (enough to warrant a warrant less search) would be an “anonymous” tip that there was something illegal going down in your house.

100% your gf called them. Why? Who knows. I’ve heard of people being vindictive and just making false reports to the police,to s**ew with their SO. And this simply happens because their SO pissed them off,

PlsbptntIhavAutism −  did you ever find out what they wanted? or even if they had the right house?

GrossAleXXX −  Hopefully we get an update on this, this is wild

Vegetable_Pin −  Dude, look in your backyard, maybe she planted something there for them to find

CapK473 −  OP, Im.not sure why your gf cracked but if I were you I would be far more concerned about why the cops showed up at your house. Somebody called them. Some in this thread suggested maybe it was your gf- maybe, maybe not. But dude, somebody was trying to s**ew you over. Find out who.

Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and this situation raises serious concerns. Was this a moment of panic, or does it reveal something deeper? How would you handle this kind of betrayal? Share your thoughts below.