My (21f) boyfriend’s friend (both 22M) tried to spike my drink.

A Reddit user was invited to hang out with her boyfriend’s friends while he was out of town. Everything seemed normal until one friend, “S,” insisted she try a special whisky. On her way to the bathroom, she saw him drop something into her drink.

Panicking, she pretended to accidentally spill it, but “S” became aggressive, trying to convince her to stay the night and making inappropriate advances. She managed to escape, but now she’s left shaken and unsure whether to tell her boyfriend, fearing he might not believe her. Read the original story below…

‘ My (21f) boyfriend’s friend (both 22M) tried to spike my drink.’

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and started hanging out with his friends, all guys, a few months after we started going out. There is usually at least 4 of us at one of our places, drinks, snacks and music every friday evening. My boyfriend is out of town for the weekend and the guys invited me anyway. We were at the friend in question’s place, let’s call him S.

S has always been very nice to me, a bit flirty in the beginning but I just brushed it off and it didn’t last long anyway. He plays guitar and I play instruments as well so we always show each other our compositions. So yesterday when I went to his place, there was another friend and everything seemed fine, we were drinking and hanging out until around 1 am when other friend says he’s heading home as he works on saturdays.

Not wanting to make anything awkward and as everyone was a bit buzzed, I say I should leave too to talk to my boyfriend and let him know I’m home okay. S says I should stay a bit more as he wants to show me the last piece he wrote, I agree and sit back on the couch.

S brings his guitar then asks if I want something else to drink, I tell him I am okay and he insists he has an amazing whisky that I need to try, he then goes to the kitchen to bring it. In the mean time, I start heading for the toilet and catch a glimpse of him dropping something in my drink, it dissolves and he smells the glass, I quickly close the toilet door before he could notice me.

Now I was tipsy but still very aware of my surroundings, and I am 100 percent sure of what I saw. He brought the two glasses and kept watching me, not knowing what to do I “accidently” dropped it, apologized profusely and said I should really head home and l started heading for the door.

S grabs my arm and is very insistant I should stay, he keeps telling me I should spend the night, how my boyfriend doesn’t need to know, that I am really hot and how horny he is. I push him and run to the door then call an uber and head home.

I don’t know what to do from here, I couldn’t sleep all night and I keep imagining worse case scenarios. I don’t know if I should tell my boyfriend or if he would even believe me and how he would react, I haven’t heard from S yet and I don’t know if I can even look him in the eyes. All I know is I am not going to be able to act normally and I am sure my boyfriend will know something is wrong. I really need some advice.

Update here: [UPDATE] My (21f) boyfriend’s friend (both 22M) tried to spike my drink.

[UPDATE 2]: My (21f) boyfriend’s friend (both 22M) tried to spike my drink.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

this_account_is_mt −  First report it to the police. It’s possible he’s done this to others or will in the future. Even if they can’t do anything they should be aware. Second, tell your boyfriend. Positive reactions would include being supportive and trusting you, possibly wanting to kick S’s ass. Negative reactions would include siding with S.

If he doesn’t trust you in this you might want to think about moving on from this relationship. But I have a feeling he’ll choose you over S. But above all, just remember that you didn’t do anything wrong here. You did not cause this. You reacted appropriately in the moment. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, it will all work out for you in time.

Confunktivitus −  Tell your man. He deserves to know.

Roadhouse_Swayze −  You have to tell him. This isn’t an ‘I don’t want to make a big deal’ kind of situation. This guy literally was going to rape you. Give it the seriousness it demands.

hot-monkey-love −  You really think he wouldn’t use the same drugs again on another girl?

Otherwise_Window −  Yes, tell him. Also, file a police report. There’s not enough evidence to stick but there should ideally be a record for the next time he tries to rape someone.

[Reddit User] −  S grabs my arm and is very insistant I should stay, he keeps telling me I should spend the night, how my boyfriend doesn’t need to know, that I am really hot and how horny he is. Tell your boyfriend *everything.* That guy is not his friend, and he has date rape written all over him.

JustSomeGuy422 −  Tell him and tell the police, this is completely unacceptable. If he sides with his friend, it means he is trash and doesn’t deserve you.

[Reddit User] −  I really need some advice. I’m sure the police will have plenty.

control-alt-deleted −  Tell your boyfriend and then figure out if you want to report him or not. This is fucked up.

RantyMcThrowaway −  Tell your boyfriend to PLEASE NOT GO TO HIS FRIEND’S HOUSE. You need support through the process of reporting him to the police, and your boyfriend won’t be able to do that from behind bars. I know he’s angry, he has every right to be,

but beating the s**t out of his friend won’t help anything, it could just interrupt the legal process and will cause a whole other host of problems for you. If he cares about you he will think harder about his actions and come straight to see you.

This is a terrifying situation, and staying silent only protects the predator. Should she tell her boyfriend and warn others? What would you do in her place? Share your thoughts.