I [m32] matched with my wife [f29] on Tinder…

A Redditor found himself in an unexpected situation when he downloaded Tinder out of curiosity while his wife was away on a business trip—only to match with her. Now faced with a complex confrontation, he must not only address why she was on the app but also explain his own presence there. With trust hanging in the balance, the upcoming conversation could redefine their relationship. Read the original story below…

‘ I [m32] matched with my wife [f29] on Tinder…’

We met on Tinder 3 years ago, fell in love fast, moved in together, and got married. We’ve been married over 14 months now, and quite happily, I would say. A month ago she left on a business trip for a week and I found myself downloading Tinder on a particularly lonely night. I don’t even know why. I didn’t have any intentions. But I did it.

I swiped here and there and got pretty bored with it. It was a funny reminder of that time of my life. I deleted it and moved on. On Monday my wife left for another business trip. Last night I once again downloaded Tinder and started swiping. Again, I had a laugh, but ultimately was bored of it.. Then I saw her picture come up.

I say shocked for a moment. I wondered if I should just delete it and pretend nothing happened. I thought maybe a bot stole her picture…. But I read her profile… it’s her. It’s her now and it’s her live. There’s even a picture of her where I am cut out. I decided to make a bold move and swipe right.. I swiped and we matched.

She gets back from her business trip tomorrow. I’m going to confront her then. I don’t even know how this is happening. She’s over 100 miles. Is a friend of her using her account?? Now I have to explain why I was on Tinder. This is just a huge can of worms that got opened.. What the hell do I do?

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Hennythepainaway −  You guys seem like a good match

fuber −  she prob downloaded Tinder on a particularly lonely night. She didn’t even know why. She didn’t have any intentions. But she did it.

FL_Outlander −  I’ll grab the popcorn. Keep us posted!

[Reddit User] −  “If you like pina coladas….”

[Reddit User] −  Honestly, what probably happened is that someone she knows or one of her friends saw you on tinder the FIRST time you went on, so she decided to investigate for herself. The fact that you matched with her instantly after you swiped on her photo means that she saw your photo first and swiped on it. So I don’t think she’d be going on tinder to cheat if she’s swiping on your photo.

[Reddit User] −  “I don’t know why. I didn’t have any intentions.”. Bull motherfucking s**t. Edit: to everyone giving OP a pass for downloading Tinder, f**k off with that garbage. You’ve apparently never been cheated on? Or maybe you did the cheating, who knows.

No one here needs to be told that “secretly downloading tinder while your WIFE is away on business” is ever okay. Its shady as f**k, and this kind of behavior should never be excused, especially by this subreddit, which is supposed to give good advice.

Pegasuspirates −  Sounds like this is a place where no one can be upset. You guys just need to sit down and have an honest conversation about things. And you said you weren’t on their for anything but…. Going straight to tinder cause you’re lonely is a liiiiittle sketch.

But also be prepared for her not to trust you either because after all you were on tinder too even if you had no intentions. You know how it will look from her end
This will be an interesting conversation…… Good luck

DeadpoolsLeftSock −  Gee. Looks like another creative writing exercise. So you’re saying that you both have your preferences set up to match with people 100 miles away and that when she saw your profile, she decided on the EXACT same course of action (swipe right but not say anything)?

[Reddit User] −  Man next time you’re bored just go on Reddit.

KyleMcMahon −  Issues:. #1. Met on tinder. #2. Moved very quickly. #3. Redownloaded the h**kup app you met your wife on because you were bored.. #4. You did it again. But you’re both “very happy”

When both partners end up in the same forbidden place, who is truly at fault? Is this an opportunity for honesty, or the beginning of the end? Share your thoughts below!