My daughter (2) is fighting cancer. My wife leaves her unsupervised to see another man

A Redditor shared a devastating story of betrayal amidst unimaginable stress. While their 2-year-old daughter battles a rare and aggressive brain cancer, he discovers his wife has been lying and meeting another man. Torn between protecting his family and confronting the heartbreak, he’s struggling to decide what’s best for himself and his children. Read his emotional story below.

‘ My daughter (2) is fighting cancer. My wife leaves her unsupervised to see another man’

I don’t even know why I am asking for advice. I am in tears writing this and know what I have to do but hoping someone thinks I should stay. In March my daughter was diagnosed with a very rare and aggressive form of brain cancer. To say this has destroyed my wife’s and my world would be an understatement. We also have an 11yo son who is not biologically mine but I am his only dad.

We were both at the hospital and there was an alarm that her blood sugar was dropping (type 1 diabetic) I picked up her phone and there was a conversation with a man asking for another pic. I let it go but it was eating me up A couple hours later when my wife was sleeping he messages again. This time I respond he said he’s sorry it got weird but he thought that him and my wife were “exposed.” I wake her up and have a huge fight at the hospital.

The next day we are discharged. About 5 minutes we get a call from the radiologist, there is blood in my daughters brain. Since I drive and my wife doesn’t, and we need someone to stay with our son, I go up to the hospital at 11pm. We are watching Curious George on the tablet when a Facebook message pops up. It’s him responding to my wife’s message of “My husband isn’t home.

Come over.” She claims she is an ad***t and just buying pills. We have had this problem before where I told her I hate she takes these meds but as long as you don’t lie I will help you. Well all she is doing is lying. I have caught her in over 20 significant lies. I’m scared if I leave I will lose my 11 yr old son.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

SauteedRedOnions −  This is above Reddit’s paygrade. Save all communications with this woman and see a divorce lawyer whenever you can. Edit: Please don’t pay money to this s**tty website because you like my comment. Donate to charity or something.. Edit 2: /u/toasty99 you troll lmao.

dhruvmk −  Collect evidence discretely, and lawyer up. Take her to court, get full custody of both by proving she’s not capable of taking care of a kid. You deserve so much better than this.

WeimSean −  Your marriage is basically over, from infidelity and addiction. She has self justified her behavior to the point that cheating on you while you are with your sick child is a completely rational and normal thing to do. She invited her boyfriend over to your house to have s** in your bed. She has chosen s** with a stranger over helping you or your daughter. It’s over man. Document everything and get a lawyer.

stealthy_geko −  Get your own photos of what she is texting him. Save and copy them. Especially if there are d**g related text messages, go to counselor/lawyer (if you can afford one). Let her think you haven’t caught her and get all the evidence you need that way you can get custody. I’m so sorry about your daughter though, and I’m sorry your wife decided to do this to you. Nobody deserves this..

Mr_Frank_Man −  Holy s**t brother.. Thats a lot to unpack. Ive experienced heartbreak and backstabbing but i couldn’t imagine if i had a child involved in all that. The answer to the question you are looking for comes from you. Because as im sure you know by now, everybody in life hurts you. Just gotta decide who is worth hurting for. Is she worth it? Could you forgive her for this? Is there any way you know of to get her to sit down and shut up and let you speak your mind to even see if its worth putting effort into anymore?

PipsqueakLive −  I am step-father to an absolutely amazing girl who also happens to have serious medical issues. In 2017 her mother and I split for a variety of reasons, but a lack of trust was a big one. What I learned from this I think might be relevant:
One of the most important things you do for your kids is model good, adult behavior. That includes showing how to establish boundaries and respect yourself in toxic situations. If this is as bad as you think, and you stick around, what will your son learn when he finds out?

Your priority first and foremost is to the child and not acting hurts them much worse than putting on a brave face and sticking it out in the long run. Do the right thing. Establish boundaries and confront your wife. How that looks – divorce, counseling, separation, whatever – is up to you, your values, and your conscience, but show your son what mature adults do in the face of adversity.

[Reddit User] −  because this is related to divorce and legal thing, i would recommend to share this story on [legaladvice](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/) subreddit. And yes make yourself ready for divorce.

BittenandSmitten −  I could see buying pills if it weren’t for the fact you saw the message ‘send another pic’ meaning she is probably sending nudes to this man or photos of her in lingerie. This really is above asking what strangers think. Your child is dying and she’s hooking up with another man instead of being there for your child.

My advice? Be there for your kid because it sure as hell sounds like your wife could care less at this point which is devastating as it’s your frikin kid. Divorce this woman because you shouldn’t be the only one who cares about your child. I’m so sorry this is happening to you.

OverGrow69 −  Its very likely she’s slipped back in to a more severe addiction to cope with your daughters cancer. A poor coping mechanism for sure, but it is what it is. Maybe she is sleeping with this guy for free drugs? Most marriages fall apart after the death of a child. The only way I see this marriage being saved is if she is indeed sleeping with this guy to feed her addiction and she gets help and gets clean. This will be hard given all the other circumstances. I wish you and daughter well OP. I’m sorry you have to go through this.

[Reddit User] −  Honestly bro, I don’t care how many people tell you to stay. Your d**g addict wife is actively cheating on you and doesn’t care if you know or not. Collect evidence and lawyer the eff up my dude. Your (soon to be ex) wife is a real POS scumbag. Let your lawyer know about your concerns about your son. They will be able to advise your best course of action. My thoughts and prayers are all going out to your daughter and son as well as yourself. Best of luck OP.