My boyfriend told an old crush of his that he’s single.

A Reddit user is grappling with confusion and hurt after discovering a conversation between her boyfriend and an old crush on his Facebook. In the conversation, he told the crush that he wasn’t in a relationship, even though they have been together for over a year. This contradiction is troubling, as it seems out of character for him, and she’s unsure whether it’s a misunderstanding or a sign of something deeper.

She’s torn between confronting him about it or letting it go, but she can’t shake the feeling that something is off. To learn more about the situation and how others are responding, read the full story below…

‘ My boyfriend told an old crush of his that he’s single.’

My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year now, and everything seemed fine between us. We have a good relationship, built on trust and understanding, or at least I thought so. But something happened recently that has completely shaken me, and now I don’t know what to think or how to feel.

The other day, I was using his computer for something and saw that Facebook was open in a tab. I wasn’t snooping intentionally, but when I saw it open, I glanced at it. That’s when I saw a conversation between him and an old crush of his. They were chatting casually, and at first, I didn’t think much of it. But then I saw that she asked him if he was single, to which he replied, “No, I’m not in a relationship.”

When she asked why, he just said, “I don’t know.” That really caught me off guard. I felt like I had been hit with a ton of bricks. How could he say that? We’ve been together for over a year now, so why would he tell someone that he’s not in a relationship when we clearly are? I started replaying the conversation in my head over and over, trying to make sense of it.

The thing is, this doesn’t seem like something my boyfriend would do. He’s always been upfront and honest with me, and I’ve never had any reason to doubt his commitment. So seeing this behavior just feels completely out of character for him.

I don’t know what to think now. Part of me wants to confront him about it, but I also don’t want to jump to conclusions. Maybe there’s an explanation. Maybe he just didn’t think about how that would come across, or maybe it was an innocent mistake. But then again, why would he say he wasn’t in a relationship at all? Why didn’t he just say he was with me? It’s hard to ignore how hurtful that feels.

I’m trying not to panic or overreact, but I can’t shake the feeling that something isn’t right. If it was just a casual chat, maybe it wouldn’t bother me as much, but the fact that he denied being in a relationship, especially when it was so clear that we are, is really bothering me. I keep thinking that if the roles were reversed, I would have never said something like that to an old crush, and I wonder if there’s something more going on.

Now I’m stuck in this weird place of uncertainty. Should I bring it up to him and risk seeming insecure or overly jealous, or should I wait to see if he eventually brings it up? Is this something that should concern me, or is it just a misunderstanding? I’ve been feeling anxious about it ever since, and I can’t help but wonder if it’s a sign of something deeper. I’m really confused, and I don’t know how to move forward.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

[Reddit User] −  Lol make him single.

WRAITHhhhh −  Well don’t make him a liar. If he says single then make him single LMAO.

Anton_BJR −  Well, is he?

Ratatoski −  Seems like he’s monkey branching. He’s trying to see if he could get together with her and doesn’t want to get friendzoned. Breaking up seems like a good idea. If you feel vindictive you could message her “Hey! I came across your conversation with my boyfriend. He lied to you, or maybe he’s psychic because he’ll be single in a minute”

roosen10 −  Sounds like a cheater in the making, he clearly still has feelings for her. Run 🙂

new-to-this-timeline −  That edit is the most satisfying edit I’ve ever read.

Manners2210 −  Not sure what you’re struggling with here. It being seemingly “out of character” is a complete irrelevance. It’s in his character, you just haven’t been exposed to it yet

woollffprincess −  Like Kraft cheese slices he’s going to be single. That last slice in the pack that you’re wondering if you should just throw it away. It’s definitely expired. Well you should, then go find you a nice wholesome block of cheese that will treat you right. (Also I’m sorry that sucks and is a hard thing to go through, I hope you find happiness). Obligatory edit: thanks to whoever gave me gold! You are too Gouda to me! Ya sorry had to. 🙂

Bangbangsmashsmash −  How did he take the break up? Are you going to message her and tell her the truth?

PickleRickFlavor −  Take a photo, of it, add them both on messenger and send it. Tell her he WASN’T single when he sent that message, but if she wants a cheater to go for it because he’s single now.

Do you think the boyfriend’s comment was an innocent mistake, or does it signal something deeper in their relationship? How would you approach this situation if you were in the user’s shoes—would you confront him or wait for him to address it? Share your thoughts below and join the discussion!