My (M24) long-term girlfriend (F22) cheated on me, got pregnant but everyone around me keep pressuring me to stay with her.

A 24-year-old man is dealing with the heartbreak of his long-term girlfriend (22F) cheating on him and becoming pregnant by another man. Despite using protection, the situation is complicated, and he’s decided to end the relationship. However, family and friends are pressuring him to stay and support her through the pregnancy. Feeling shattered, he’s unsure of how to navigate this overwhelming situation. Read the full story to understand the emotional turmoil he’s facing and the pressure from those around him.

‘ My (M24) long-term girlfriend (F22) cheated on me, got pregnant but everyone around me keep pressuring me to stay with her.’

So we grew up together in a small town, known each other for our whole life and eventually fell in love when she was 17 and moved to the city together 2 years ago. I work as a carpenter and she’s still at uni. Two weeks ago she suddenly dropped the news that she’s 3 weeks pregnant.

I know for sure it can not be mine because I always use protection and never have s** under alcohol/d**g influence (I don’t drink or smoke). So I pressured her and she confessed that she slept with an exchange student during a school vacation trip.

She said he’s been hitting on her for weeks but the s** was unplanned (that’s why he didn’t have condom prepared and she didn’t have pills ready) and it’s only one time thing and she has no feeling for the guy anymore.

I was totally in shocked but after a day, I decided that I can’t stay in this relationship anymore: First, I am not ready to raise a child that is not my own. Second, I don’t know if I am able to forgive her for betraying me, at least not at the moment.

So I break it off, asked my boss if I can stay at the worker rooms (for temporary worker) at the warehouse and let my girlfriend stays at our place till she find a house (I pay full rent because only I work).

So eventually our families and our mutual friends got the news and now they are all pressuring me to get back with my girlfriend (except for my sister who supports me). They say it’s wrong to abandon her at a time like this, especially my dad who I had a fight with every two days because of this.

He said he knows she’s a good girl, just a young people mistake, that I should stay with her and give the child for adoption … And my friends keep messaging me convincing me to take her back. One of them even accuses me because I am the reason she moved to the city so it’s my responsibility.

Now I am heart-broken, lonely and shattered. Feels like the whole world doesn’t give a single f**k about how I feel. I just want to move to a new city and start everything from zero but don’t have the courage. Maybe some advice from you guys would ease the stress.

TL;DR: My (M24) long-term girlfriend (F22) cheated on me, got pregnant but everyone around me pressuring me to stay with her.

**\[A LITTLE UPDATE\] I didn’t think my story would get this much reaction, thank you all you guys for caring and giving me advices. I tried to read all the comments that I could. T thought I could get through this alone but you guys make me realized that I am not alone so I just called my little sister and she will be on the train to the city tomorrow morning to stay with me for the weekend.

I also called my parents and her parents and they agreed to come to us this weekend to discuss this matter. I don’t know how it’s gonna go but I hope I can update my situation in the next few days.**

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

0_percent_wrong −  Of course everyone is pressuring you to stay, someone has to pay for her and the baby to live while she goes to school. Save yourself more heartache and leave now.

thatbrownboy30 −  Your friends are being ridiculous! Listen to me. It doesn’t matter if it was a one time thing. This girls cheated on you and then was hoping you wouldn’t realise that you couldnt have got her pregnant. She was gonna pretend like you were the father.

She cheated and lied and was gonna let you raise a child that isn’t yours without you knowing, she only told you cos you pushed. Kick her out of your apartment and tell her to go live with her baby daddy. You owe her nothing. And no, she clearly isn’t a nice person.

EDIT: Thanks for the awards guys, you broke my reddit award virginity

sad_eukaryotic_cell −  She violated your trust first. She deserved it. You have no obligation to care for a baby that’s not yours. What I don’t understand is why everyone cares so much about your girlfriend when she was the one who cheated on you. Go back to her ONLY if you’re hundred percent sure you can love her and the child unconditionally, which seems pretty impossible to me now.

Swede-74 −  Not your fault. Not your concern. The day she was unfaithful, she left your relationship. The child already has a father. Let him take care of it now. Not your problem. It’s his and hers.

ripecantaloupe −  Bro she cheated on you and got pregnant. Get out of there. Don’t go back. She’s NOT your responsibility anymore. Why? Because she CHEATED ON YOU. She ruined the relationship, not you. Please don’t take her back. She didn’t even tell you the baby wasn’t yours until you pressured her to confess. She was hoping to pass it off as yours…

Older_Fella −  Two distinct issues here.

1st, she cheating on you in a realtively fresh relationship, with no remorse or explanation, unprotected, and you found out only because she is pregnant. Your decision to bail is absolutely RIGHT.

BTW, she did not make ONE mistake, she made a metric ton of them : not shutting down JoeShmo when he got too close; following JoeShmo to an isolated corner; taking part or all of her clothes off to allow the deed; allowing JoeShmo to do it without protection AGAINST STDs; not telling you at any time; having no remorse on the matter; not understanding or acknowledging the hurt you got in the process. The list goes on.

2nd, everybody and his dog thinks you should not abandon your cheating GF because she’s a good girl and because she made a mistake. Well, these two arguments don’t pan out as stated above. At all. If anybody thinks she deserves some help, they can provide it to her no problem. Best you can do for her is help her get back to her home town. The second you show care for her child, you will create a legal bind that will grow over time and it will cost you.

Bro, go no contact with all these aholes who will be nowhere to be seen when you get tired of this unfair burden and focus on yourself : health (fitness, good eating), happiness (friends, hobbies, etc.), income stability.

ChinaCatLogan −  Sounds like you need new friends.

ezagreb −  Dude this is not your long term wife. You have no kids. She is both lying (yes, sorry, but she is) and cheating. Why the f**k are you even asking what to do ? You need to tell her that whatever is wrong is her own problem and not yours because you two are no longer going out. Also give her x weeks (single digit) to get out of *your* place (which BTW just makes her actions much, much worse).

[Reddit User] −  There is no protection, that is 100% safe, so make a paternity test to make sure, it isn’t your child. Regarding your friends and family, to be honest, f\*\*k them. Tell them to kiss your ass and only stay in contact with your sister (this lovely person) for the next time.

She decided to cheat on you, she decided to hurt you in the worst way possible. You got every right to do what you are doing right now. Take time for yourself to heal and get your head clear. Make no further decisions until you can think straight again. Stay strong and on the path you are. Good luck my friend.

Curlytomato −  Do not run your life by committee, the decisions are yours to make. It sounds like you know yourself and know that you would not be able to forgive/forget her betrayal and there is NOTHING wrong with that. Being mature is sticking to the decision that is right for you.

We all deserve trust and honesty, when someone breaks that trust the consequences are their’s not yours to pay. The other guy and his family may end up being part of the baby’s life ,which would be wonderful for the child but not so hot for you. Tell everyone else who wants you to stay that THEY can marry her, she didnt lie and cheat on them and they think so highly of her so why not ?

Do you think the man should give in to the pressure from family and friends, or is it more important for him to prioritize his own feelings and well-being in this situation? What advice would you offer someone in his position who’s feeling overwhelmed and heartbroken? Share your thoughts below.