[23M] my girlfriend [25F] is obsessed with psychedelics and her spiritual journey

A Redditor shared their concern about their girlfriend, who has become increasingly obsessed with psychedelics and her spiritual journey. After experimenting with substances like magic mushrooms, truffles, and DMT during her studies in Amsterdam, she now frequently talks about these experiences and believes they can solve mental health issues.

While the Redditor was initially interested, they feel the relationship is shifting as their girlfriend’s obsession grows, even planning to grow her own mushrooms and pursue further experimentation. Despite discussions, she becomes frustrated when they express their concerns. The Redditor is unsure whether this is a passing phase or something more serious, and they don’t want it to be a dealbreaker. Read the original story below…

‘ [23M] my girlfriend [25F] is obsessed with psychedelics and her spiritual journey’

We’ve been dating for 3 years on and off (due to studies abroad) and we have similar interests and we study/studied in the same field so we have a lot in common. We have a great relationship overall, we are very transparent and open about everything.

BUT the thing is she has a history of addiction (amfetamine) but she has gotten past it many years ago and it was only for a short duration (6 months). I was okay with that since she has matured and doesn’t do anything anymore and barely drinks alcohol.

The issue that has aroused recently is that she experimented with some hallucinogenic drugs such as magic mushrooms, truffle and DMT while abroad studying in Amsterdam. Now over the past 12 months, it’s all she talks about, she says how it isn’t addictive how it can solve depression and other mental issues and how it showed her this other dimension and so forth.

At first, it piqued my interest and I thought it was fun to discuss and for her to share her experience. But now it’s all she talks about, we used to talk about our hobbies (working out, gaming, movies, etc) but ever since she came back all she talks about is these psychedelics.

Her next move is to grow her own shrooms and get a hold of DMT again here in Poland. I feel like I’m slowly losing her, she wants this so-called “Breakthrough” by experimenting with these drugs and even though the d**g itself isn’t addictive I feel like this obsession for a breakthrough is.

We have talked about it and she just gets upset and frustrated and says that I don’t understand and never will until I try it. I don’t know how to proceed, I don’t want this to be a dealbreaker but at the same time I don’t know if this “phase” will ever end. How do I go about this?

Update here: [UPDATE]: [23M] my girlfriend [25F] is obsessed with psychedelics and her spiritual journey

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

[Reddit User] −  Do not listen to the person above. I was exactly like your girlfriend. I’ve had the “breakthrough”. I can offer insight from both perspectives. These are drugs. And they are addictive not DMT but mushrooms and LSD are. If the chemical is not physically addictive the experience can be. They are two hard scientific facts.

They can lead to self growth. They can also lead to ego traps, psychosis, schizophrenia, psychotic episodes. The list goes on. They are not to be taken lightly and certainly not to be fucked with. If I had my time over I wouldn’t have gone through that stage of my life.

People develop a severe superiority complex from doing them and begin to believe they’re other worldly beings and too advanced and know something others don’t. They begin to believe everyone is “trapped” and “asleep”. It’s b**lshit. I’ve seen what’s on the other side of a breakthrough. I ended up having a psychotic episode and haven’t touched them since.

juicerwasting −  I was in your place and I tell you, you will glide apart. Your minds will be to different in the end. We had a nice home, decent jobs, and a bright future but it became too much for her in the end. She barely wanted to take our daughter to school.

In the end my partner left our daughter and me to go to some ayahuasca trip and never came back. She is “homeless” in South America and seems to have a new boyfriend every week based on her Facebook. I don’t wanna say run just because I had a bad experience but that would be my advice. Take it or leave it

throwra2039475968 −  Psychedelics are like being hypnotized. If you have any doubt in your mind that it’s not going to work and be a positive experience, it is the worst possible thing you can do. I was kind of in your situation with my last boyfriend. He was insistent about how life changing LSD was, and that to truly understand the world I HAD to try it.

Since I wasn’t in a good place emotionally, I finally let him wear me down into trying it. It was literally the worst experience of my life. I spent the entirety of the six hours hallucinating such fun things as getting stuck in a house fire, getting hit by a car and bleeding out on the pavement, dying of cancer in a hospital, overdosing and dying alone in a s**tty apartment… it was terrifying.

And now if I ever get high, even on weed, I have horrifying flashbacks to that day. NEVER try anything like that if you’re sceptical of it working. (Especially if you’re like me and have chronic depression).

DangMangoTango −  While I think psychedelics can certainly be a positive experience and I believe most users of any substance can likely see that, I think there’s a dark side to them that is not often talked about. They are still providing an escape and being obsessed with a trip can also be as negative as being obsessed with the next time getting high on any substance or drunk.

If she already trips and hasn’t had “the experience”, then she can likely be treading a fine line between trying to have a poignant mental breakthrough and obsessing over the feeling of being high.

Side note: my username is actually what I say my cat, Mango, is doing when he does that cute b**t wiggle before pouncing (HES DOING THE DANG MANGO TANGO). I realized a few days after that it looks like I love DMT which is not the case lol.

lysergamidelion −  I mean are psychedelics fun? Yes. Can they open new doors? Yes. Are the experiences memorable and powerful parts of MY life? Yes. Have I seen them f**k up peoples lives? Absolutely. They arent for everybody and shouldn’t be taken lightly. They have both good and bad sides. I know several people that are forever changed due to their uses, and not on a good way.

The obsession to have these, “breakthrough experiences” can lead you to taking to much and having a truly terrifying ordeal. I myself would not change the experiences I’ve had and wouldn’t change it for the world. I’ve grown closer to my family, stopped some really bad habits and found out a lot about myself as a person.

However I never obsessed about them or chased the experience. It sounds like she’s gonna have a bad time. People like this tend to overdo it searching for something that isnt really there. Bottomed line is you guys arent compatible.

You will NEVER be able to change beliefs like this and I recommend you let her go. She’s going to go chasing this experience that should be supplemental not the end all be all that will show her some magical revelation. It just doesn’t work like that.. Also is your girlfriend Joe Rogan?

Gen_Psychedelic −  I can try and give some insight from the other side. My gf and I are in a similar but flipped situation. I discovered psychedelics about 2 years ago and they have truly changed me. I can certainly agree that there are many problems with people not learning how to use psychedelics responsibly and losing their understanding for other ways of thinking.

My gf is straight edge and doesnt really approve of my experiments but I have learned to respect her disinterest and can understand why she doesn’t want to discuss it. Even I’m annoyed by friends who think they have found the ultimate solution and I really, really think it is an amazing thing.. Things your gf is right about:

-It is true that you will never understand until you try. -It is true that the psychedelic experience is often the most powerful experience someone has ever had in their life. Expecting people to not want to tell their loved ones about the life changing thing that just happened is ridiculous.. Things your gf has to learn:

-Not everyone is interested or suited to have this experience and constantly lobbying for it just shows that she isn’t correctly integrating the experience and understanding how to use her insights

-This experience is only a tool and is only a part of her life. She has to learn to enjoy life as before and incorporate it rather than it taking over. -she has to be careful with going further and further without proper guidance, especially DMT can be an overpowering experience if not prepared correctly. Things you can do:

-If you want to understand I would recommend you read something like “How to change your mind” by Micheal Pollan. It gives insight how a “non-user” discovered psychedelics and his journey. An excellent read and I believe it could offer you some insights into why she is behaving the way she is

-Tell her about the things she has to do (above) and the reasoning behind it and to read about the experience as well (if interested you can DM me for a small reading list). Every person involved with psychedelics needs to understand what they can be used for and what not.

If taken with a knowledgable person these substances can truly change your life in a positive way. I know this is a bit all over the place but I hope it can help you. If you have any follow up questions don’t hesitate to DM me – I have plenty insights how to deal with this in a relationship.

NoNoTheOtherOne −  This is so sad and difficult. In my opinion (battling addiction for over a decade now) there are two immediate outcomes: 1. You try one last ditch effort to get her to realize that she may fall into the mental addiction that occur with many drugs. Get her to look at her behavior and see what she would say about herself (example: her loss of interest in her career) if she were a friend or family member observing her.

2. As I don’t believe an ultimatum would work I would suggest you break up with her. Unfortunately, as so many people have stated, this is her journey to figure out, and she’s the only one who will be able to determine when it’s over. At least to won’t be enabling her, and maybe in some soft of miraculous turn of events she will have an epiphany and try to get help.

I’m so sorry to here you’re going through this, and my heart goes out to your girlfriend as well. Being blind to the devastation of a mental obsession is a curse I wouldn’t put on anyone. It causes so much pain, and often it brings along a mountain of wasted time and regret. I hope things turn out for the best for you both, and I’m sorry that this may not go the way up want it to go. Please tru and stay strong.

slitheringsavage −  This post is just you asking permission to break up with her. You’re not comfortable with her use of drugs and I doubt she will stop if you asked her. So you can bow out now or tell her no more trips and watch her go. That part is up to you.

madeinwhales −  Best of luck with this. I enjoy psychedelics from time to time, but I like them because I feel the rest of my life is sorted. As the poster above says, psyche-fiends can have an awful superiority complex.

[Reddit User] −  I’m what you call a “connoisseur” of hallucinogens. Speaking about shrooms only, If she’s microdosing them when she needs to i.e., less than 1 gram, 2 grams max, then that should be perfectly fine. But if she’s going full blast 1/8 i.e., 3.5 grams or let alone 3 grams for full trip session on the regular, then that could be a problem.

Shrooms, when not taken with microdose regularly can have adverse affect on her mental instability. Shrooms can alleviate depression, but it’s improbable it can cure it, not impossible. With that said, Oscar Wilde once said “Everything in moderation including moderation.”

Can someone be too immersed in their own spiritual journey? Is it possible to stay in a relationship when your partner’s obsession with something like psychedelics starts to take over? How would you navigate the balance between supporting your partner’s growth and maintaining your own boundaries? Share your thoughts on what the Redditor should do next.