21/ F Should I confront this players fiancé?

A Reddit user shared their dilemma after discovering that the man they’ve been talking to—who confessed to having feelings for them—is actually engaged to another woman. Initially, the man claimed he and his fiancée had broken up, but further digging revealed they’re still together and planning a wedding in two months.

The user is torn between warning the fiancée about his behavior or staying out of the situation entirely. Their concern stems from the fiancée’s apparent unawareness and the potential impact on her two children. To uncover more details about the situation and the advice Reddit users offered, read the full story below.

’21/ F Should I confront this players fiancé?’

I met a guy at a place I used to work two years ago. I felt attracted to him but I was in a relationship at the time. Quit shortly after that and didn’t have much contact with him.
Found him on Facebook a few months back and sent him a request. He accepted of course at the time his Facebook said that he wasn’t in a relationship.

He messaged me two weeks ago.He confessed that he had always had a huge crush on me. I told him the feelings were mutual. We talked for a week before I lurked on his Facebook and saw some recent posts that a girl had tagged him in. Went to her page and it said she was engaged to him!

I confronted him, but he said that had just broken up a few weeks ago and she must not have changed her relationship status yet. Me being gullible I believed him. He’s told me everyday that he wants to see me and take me on the date of my dreams. Something didn’t feel right about him so I checked her Facebook again today and there is no denying that they’re together.

On his page he appears single but on her page the evidence is clear. I always found out they’re getting married in two months, and that she has two children that are very attached to him.
I’m not sure if I should message her and inform her that her fiancé is attempting to cheat on her. Or ignore it because it’s technically not my business.

Personally if I were in her shoes I would want someone to tell me before I made a mistake and married a cheater. Who’s to say he isn’t doing this with more girls than me.

See what others had to share with OP:

Halcyoniia −  I’m not even sure if it was the right call at the time, but a similar situation happened to me, and I ended up deciding to send the fiance proof and message her about it. She ended up thanking me and let me know that this wasn’t an isolated event, that she had a tiny voice in the back of her head a bit unsure about the entire relationship,

but the stuff I sent her solidified her decision in breaking it off. I decided to send the message to her because I would wholeheartedly want to know if I were the fiance and avoid marrying a douchebag.

ilove_Gingers −  I’d send her a screen shot of yours and his conversation with an apology note saying he lied to you and you had no idea. It kind of Is your business since you’re sort of the other woman;although you and him haven’t begun a relationship you started an emotional connection in a way. Like you said, you’d want someone to tell you.

ofthrees −  as far as i know, if you change your status on fb from ‘in a relationship’ to single, it will show as ‘in a relationship with no one’ on the other person’s page. as in, when you went to her page, you would’ve merely seen ‘in a relationship.’ i’d link you to evidence, but links are forbidden here.

he’s lying to you. unless his page says “single” (as in, it says nothing about his relationship status), he hasn’t changed his status; he’s merely hidden it. in answer to your question, yeah, i’d tell him. he’s lying to her (despite being involved with her *kids*), and lying to you, and probably lying to others. he’s a l**r. f**k this guy.